It's that time of year again, time to make New Year Resolutions that you won't keep! Ever thought about why they're so difficult to stick to? Why do you run out of steam, and usually give up by the end of February? Follow this new version of achieving your New Year's Resolutions, and be the picture of success by this time next year!
1. Last Year: You had unrealistic expectations.
This Year: Instead of choosing four or five resolutions, pick one or two that you can focus on. Make them something you really want to change, not something that you feel outside pressure (by loved ones or society) to change.
Don't decide to start exercising because your sister-in-law commented on your flabby arms. If you don't truly want it for yourself, you won't be able to take the actions needed.
FYI -an effective little secret that many people are finding out about is that training in the martial arts develops in you more self-discipline, focus, and confidence - the tools necessary to achieve your goals. First thing, find a local Karate/Kickboxing school and begin classes. A good Academy will focus on goals and accomplishment.
2. Last Year: You were unprepared.
This Year: Understand the amount of time and effort that you have to put into changing. Know that there will be setbacks, so don't be too hard on yourself when they happen. Forgive yourself and immediately take steps to ensure it doesn't happen again. If you're changing your eating habits, don't keep cookies in the house! Prepare you life for success, not failure.
3. Last Year: You had a loosely defined or unrealistic goal.
This Year: Pick a goal. Write it down on a piece of paper, in great detail, but be realistic. Don't write "to lose 20 lbs by Valentines Day". Do write "to weigh _____lbs by 5pm on April 7th, 2009 to be achieved by eating more fruit and vegetables and joining a martial arts and kickboxing school so I can get a good workout three times a week".
Then create a goal schedule. Decide what you want to have achieved by the midpoint, the quarter point, monthly and then weekly. Again, make it realistic for you. You want to challenge yourself, but not set goals so high that you get frustrated and give up when you don't immediately see results. Once you have your goal schedule, write down the actions that you need to take to achieve each mini-goal and keep you on track.
You'll only succeed once you have your main supporter (YOU!) behind you, so get rid of your negative thinking. And just do it! Follow your plan. Give it 100% of your effort and ability, 99% of the time, and you'll succeed.
Trust your intuition, follow your dreams, and set your goals high!